121: How to Make Peace with Abandonment Issues, Rejection, Guilt and Shame with Allyson Byrd

Hey loves! Today I’m joined by Allyson Byrd. Enjoy this amazing episode!

"We were talking about what really matters to us and I said, ‘I’m ready to be beyond the abandonment, shame, and rejection’. And someone sitting back there replied, ‘So then, what story are you willing to tell yourself about it?’"

In today’s episode, we talk about:

• How to move through abandonment

• How to make peace through the hardest times of your life 

• How to author a new story

• Understanding how to give to yourself when you are overextending from a wounded place 

• How to make peace with rejection, shame, and abandonment 

• What overextension looks like when serving others to avoid your own self-love 

• Reclaim and remember who you are at your core

So many coaches show up to teach all the pitfalls to avoid in hopes of you curating maybe 10% more success in your life. That is until they tell you that barely the top 1% of people make it into the sacred rings of achievement. It’s called motivational speaking but it sounds tragic AF, right? 

Well, after screwing up her life for over 20 years with multiple careers, failed business ideas, sad singleness, unhappy family, broken relationships, no money, living in a tiny apartment, and weighing in at 345lbs, Allyson discovered motivational speaking and how unmotivated she was when she heard it. 

She then read the Gandhi quote, “Be the change you wish to see in this world.”, and she decided to change the game. 

When Allyson speaks, she answers the question, “WHAT IF IT ALL GOES RIGHT?”. 

Through her own story, she shares how she made life way harder than it ever had to be. 

For decades she trash-talked and shamed herself, letting perfectionism, anxiety, people-pleasing, and other self-sabotaging habits take over until she hardly recognized herself. She says that if you saw her during those times, you’d say she was positive and cheerful, but inside she was relentlessly beating herself up and frustrated that life never went her way.

Can you relate? 

The hard core truth is that inner peace is a lot of f*cking work but so is living in shame, overwhelm, lack, scarcity, or fear. We all get to choose our “hard” and Allyson is the master of teaching you how to do it with ease. 

Reinventing your life — getting what you really want in business, at home, and in your relationships may seem hard.

It’s not. You can do it. You just need to know how. Congratulations… you’re in the bonus round of life where you manifested “Allyson!” 

Connect with Allyson:

- Find Allyson on Instagram @iamallysonbyrd. 

- Check out her website here. 

If you loved this episode... 

- Then be sure to listen to Episode 40: Being brave in putting yourself out there even through facing rejection with Dr. Neeta Bhushan. Apple | Spotify

- You’ll love Episode 22: Reclaiming yourself & Living a life of Pleasure with Regena Thomasauer. Apple | Spotify

- Episode 42: ‘Taking ownership of life circumstances by reframing your reality to make it work for you with Emily Hirsh’ is right up your alley! Apple | Spotify

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